For some people, taking a new date out to dinner can be one of the most romantic things to do. For new lovers, this can be a nerve-racking experience. They fear saying the wrong thing, appearing stupid, prying or inadvertently bringing up a “bad” topic. However, new friends dining together for the first time have a great opportunity to use conversation to begin forming a strong connection.
Relax. Conversation during a tête-à-tête dinner can be at once lighthearted and a great tool of discovery. Here are 5 topics that are certain to send you on a path of mutual discovery by tapping into good memories, strengths and interests.
1- Ask your friend about a memorable vacation he/she took before knowing you. Allow time for him/her to reminisce and fully describe good moments.
2- Talk about pets who have changed your lives. Do not spend too much time on describing the cute things your pet does. Instead, focus your inquiry on how pets have an impact on your friend’s quality of life and yours. This will bring the conversation a notch deeper.
3- This is one of our favorites: Ask your friend about things he/she would like to learn in the next 10 years. This is a great way of discussing the future in a manner that shines a light on each person’s dreams and hopes.
4- Discuss hobbies, but with a twist. Begin by discussing hobbies you have loved as a child. You’d be surprised how many people have a sudden moment of clarity when revisiting childhood hobbies, when they suddenly recognize a personal triumph. This is a great moment to share with a new love, one that can be a strong anchor in the relationship.
5- We especially love this one too: Ask your friend to talk about the best teacher he/she has ever had. This can be a conventional teacher or any other type of mentor. This topic shines a light on milestones and gratitude.
Most of all, have fun!
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